Day 2 / Joimove Live Training in Taipei
Second day at Joimove Live Training in Taiwan was full of learning but fun! After workshop and wokrshops in the afternoon Joimove trainees met at Dahu Park to have their ballet and dance sessions in nature with wonderful scenery in the background. At the end of the dance training session they performed their first time ever impromptu public dancing. They picked 三天三夜, a song by famous Taiwanese singer 張惠妹 and our founder Selen improvised the routine. Everyone danced Joimove in harmony together with participants from the audience. A huge congratulations to everyone!
Joimove Training in Taipei
7-11 November 2017
Joimove’s founder Selen has landed in Taiwan and was met by our amazing Joimove Asia community leaders. Joimove Instructor and Business Training has just began and we gathered together photos for you from an exciting day at Joimove Taiwan! Watch this space and follow our Joimove channels on facebook and instagram for updates from the Joimove live training sessions throughout the week and weekend.
Our wonderful trainees have completed their first day at Joimove training. 8 hours of study dedicated to health and safety at Joimove and learning joyful ways of communication to deliver the safety information suits for all ages. Now all set for the next 2 days!
Joimove’s founder Selen said: “Pure joy to be here, teaching and learning with wonderful women. I am loving it every single minute we share our message! World needs JOY, and we Joimovers are here for!
Joimove Taiwan’s Representative Diana Chendana said “There are so much love, joy and laughter on our 1st day of Joimove babywearing dancing training. We will have great bunch of baby wearing dance instructors. Thank you Selen Yılmaz for creating such a great program to encourage people to bond, move and communicate joyfully.”
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My babywearing journey starts like most, from a place of love and devotion to my new baby. For me, it was a natural choice. A way to create a strong and lasting bond, a way to give my darling the warmth, comfort, and confidence she needed.
I found life as a new mum beautiful but not so easy. Ten days after birth, my husband went abroad to set up what would be our new life in Scotland. Babywearing became my life saver. It helped me calm the frantic moments all new mums experience and helped to create a bond with my beautiful daughter while her dad was away. And, as a former professional ballet dancer, I had continued dancing and teaching until the last days of my pregnancy and babywearing helped me to keep moving after birth, sway and dance; chest to chest, heart to heart with my Lydia.
We left Istanbul 3 months later to meet up with my husband. I never stopped babywearing or dancing. In fact, it became a family affair. My husband took up babywearing too, and it was beautiful to see how daddy and daughter’s relationship flourished by babywearing.
Soon after we settled I started holding babywearing dancing classes as an expat mom in Glasgow. There were so much to learn from English to setting up a business. And, through my Dance with Babies classes and Dancing Families movement, I found my new babywearing community with so many beautiful parents and babies from all over the world living in Glasgow and they were inspirational in helping me uniting my two passions, babywearing and dancing. I journeyed from high street carriers to ergonomically correct ones, becoming a peer supporter and to babywearing consultant. I established a school and team of experts at Joimove where we created the safety course on active babywearing to help babywearing dance instructors deliver their classes safely.
Our growing team of Joimove leaders, Instructors, and Joimovers now form a global community of loving, caring, skilled individuals who are spreading a love and awareness of safe babywearing in 14 countries and growing. Through our Joimove Babies classes, flash mobs, International Babywearing Dance Day, fundraisers, and special events, Joimove has introduced more than 4000 new parents to babywearing in three years.
No matter what lens I viewed the world, whether through Joimove, my personal training and learning, or my babywearing social community, babywearing and dance continued to be integral to mine and my family’s life. From Lydia’s inspired dances at home, to her excitement in taking part in my babywearing dance classes, or when she tagged along with my husband and I when we went to tango practices, dance and babywearing were our lives.
At the end of 2015, babywearing became a healing tool in our lives. Lydia was diagnosed with Leukaemia, when she was 3, during our family visit in Turkey. In the space of a week, our beloved dancing fairy’s life had come crashing to the ground, no longer able to walk. This new chapter started abruptly in the hospital.
Lydia’s illness had a deep effect on all of us. Despite the constant needles, the cannulas and the tubes during Lydia’s first cycle of chemo, we kept the baby carrier beside us. Babywearing turned to toddlerwearing, keeping Lydia close to our bodies and hearts.
Music and movement, and just general toddler-wearing continued to play a healing part of our lives with Lydia strapped on to us as much as we could; as we walked/danced in hospital corridors, in the room together, wherever we went. It has been 2 years with treatment and we have couple of months left to complete. She is now back to her health and shines her joyful personality where ever she goes. We are grateful to our health team, family and friends both in Turkey, Scotland and beautiful Joimove community around the world. Recently Lydia published a book called “I Like To Go To The Hospital” and all proceeds from the sale of this book goes to Glasgow Children’s Hospital Charity.
Our journey through cancer may be unique to us, but I strongly recommend babywearing, dancing, and never missing a chance to enjoy life as a way to get through the tough times. It’s brought my family closer together and given us strength. I hope it does the same for you, no matter your situation. I am very excited to sharing more with you on my upcoming books “The Babywearing Dance Book” and “Dance Your Life Up: 14 Healing Remedies to Overcome Life’s Challenges”. As I always say “Be grateful, celebrate life and spread love!”
Selen Yilmaz is an international author, former professional ballet dancer, choreographer with over 25 years experience, babywearing consultant and entrepreneur whose work has spread to fourteen countries in three years.
This post has been adapted from an original post from Selen Yilmaz’s blog. Want to find out more about Joimove’s founder Selen’s journey? Follow her on Instagram.
The Joimove Scarf Hack for Babywearing
We love babywearing, and we know lots of babies who love it too! It is so important to find the comfortable and safe carrier that fits you and baby correctly, and that means that baby’s head, neck, body and legs and your spine need to be supported.
When you arrive at a Joimove Babies session, or if you have been there before, you may see our instructors help participants with narrow-based carriers using the Joimove Scarf Hack or even replace their carriers with fully ergonomic ones. If your carrier isn’t providing knee-to-knee support for baby, a gentle, cuddly shape for your baby’s spine, and comfortable positioning for yourself, the Joimove Scarf Hack can help you out as you begin your search for a carrier that’s ergonomically correct for you both.
1-Put on your carrier and check that the size adjustments are set correctly. Straps should be pulled tightly and baby should be sitting high enough that you can kiss your baby on her head.
2-Fold a 2-meter long scarf in half.
3-Tuck the centre of the folded scarf in between the carrier and your stomach.
5-Place baby deep in the carrier facing inwards, supporting her bottom, legs, and knees with the help of the scarf.
6-Tighten the scarf, gently lifting baby’s knees so that they are naturally higher than her hipbones. *Remember: never force a baby’s body into any position.
7-Tuck the scarf into the side straps of your carrier.
8-Knot the scarf at your back.
9-Do not forget to support baby’s head and neck with your hand!
10-Let’s get dancing!
Read more about babywearing dance safety here. To help you in your search, check out some of the great advantages of a local sling library, babywearing peer supporters and consultants in your area!
Joimovers in the News
We are so proud of our Joimovers! Joimove Babies, Kids, and Friends Instructors have been making the news lately with their great work and are inspiring others to get active and spend quality time with their babies and children. Let’s take a look at some of these amazing news stories from all around the world!
Our amazing Joimovers in Taipei, Taiwan, were featured on evening news to share information on the benefits of babywearing dance classes and Joimove’s expertise in safe, fun babywearing. Diana Chendana and Phoebe Chiang were interviewed alongside Dr Yin Chang-Sheng, an expert in obstetrics and gynaecology, who lent support to the great work and high safety standards that Joimove Babies classes offer to parents with babies and young children.
Dr Yin Chang-Sheng noted, “Music and dance helps adults to produce happy hormones, generally referring to endorphin, serotonin, dopamine, and oxycontin. These happy hormones can be transferred from adults to the child by babywearing and dancing. It [babywearing dance] will help to lower your blood pressure, reduce your risk of heart problems, but also develop skin to skin contact and attachment between you and your baby.”
Ruta Lelthe Ambrozaitienė, a Joimove Babies and Kids Instructor from Vilnius, Lithuania, had an article published in Mažylis, Lithuania’s parenting magazine. Ruta was so happy to be able to share information about working as a Joimove Instructor with babies and new mothers with Mažylis’s readers.
We asked Ruta to tell us more:
“I shared that dance is in human nature, that living with a beat and rhythmic movement starts in the mother’s womb and continue on in a mother’s hands with nursery songs, calming down a baby, etc. But we stop dancing when we start to think that dance needs special abilities, specialised knowledge, and technique. Usually such messages as ‘I can’t dance’ comes from parents and a child accepts this idea that dancing is something that you have to learn.
“Dance is emotion. We all have hearts that beat, we all move in one way or another, so we all can dance! Also, dance is a perfect, easy way to stay active and produce hormones of happiness, which is important! It’s not about some technical dance steps. If baby feels your movement and your happiness, he doesn’t care about what your legs are doing.”
Joimove’s Founder, Selen Yilmaz, was recently interviewed by Bebegim ve Biz about the history of Joimove International and the progress Joimovers have made in promoting active living, safe babywearing and babywearing dance, and in bringing people together in communities all over the world. We were honoured that the magazine chose to create a special edition for Joimove in honour of the amazing powers of babywearing and babywearing dance in their August 2017 issue.
United States of America
This week, one of Joimove’s newest Joimove Babies Instructors, Kailey McNeill, held a well-attended flashmob in her home state of Virginia. The flashmob of babywearing dancers and their little ones was even featured on Fox 5 News. Great work Kailey!
A big ‘Congratulations!’ goes to all of our Joimove Instructors and Trainees who continue to inspire community spirit and active living in every one of their communities.
Want to find out about Joimove events in your area? Check out Joimove’s Facebook page and Instagram account for updates, or contact us today to find out more about becoming an inspiration in your own community through our unique Joimove training programmes.
5 Reasons Why We Love Babywearing
It’s no secret that all of us here at Joimove love babywearing. The very first Joimove class, Joimove Babies, celebrated babywearing by mixing safe babywearing with dance and movement.
Family health professionals, paediatricians, physiotherapists, psychologists and babywearing experts alike all know that there are plenty of benefits of babywearing for baby; from helping to sooth colic and create a safe sleeping environment, to deepening the connection between baby and wearer, babywearing helps us to create joyful parenting moments and encourages a nurturing touch.
So let’s take a look at five great reasons why we love to wear babies!
1- Freedom to Move
When baby is safe, warm, and snuggled into her carrier or wrap, we can go for a walk, hop on a bus, or even get moving to some great music. Carrying babies in a carrier distributes weight equally, unlike when they’re being carried in arms, and is more comfortable for the wearer and baby alike. With the right carrier or wrap we’re free to go anywhere we want!
Choosing an ergonomically designed carrier should help maintain correct posture and give full support for baby while preventing lower back pain for the carer. The right wrap or carrier is sized to a child’s needs and provides ergonomically correct support for baby’s head, neck, spine, hips and legs. When worn correctly, baby (or toddler) is safe and secure. What a great feeling!
Chest-to-chest (face-in) carrying is wonderful for building that crucial bond between parent and child. Baby listens to our heartbeats, feels our breathing, and is reassured that he or she is loved and supported by their caregiver. When we wear our babies comfortably and safely, and maybe dance a few smooth moves while keeping our hearts open, we find a joy that lasts.
Let’s not forget about one of those great moments in parenting in new baby: helping baby fall asleep! As one of our Joimovers shared, “My little girl was not a sleeper. She’d sleep less than an hour at a time around the clock. I popped into a lovely stretchy wrap and – guess what – three solid hours of sleep while I got to relax and simply enjoy being her.” Amazing! Do you have colicky baby? A snuggle and some gentle movement or rocking while in a carrier can help to calm and sooth your little one.
Who doesn’t love cuddles?! Cuddling, hugging, and holding our babies close to us is vital to growing their sense of security, assisting their development, and strengthening the parent-child bond that we all want to have with our children for the rest of our lives. Hold your baby close and give her/him a big cuddle today!
Why not share our love of babywearing with us on Instagram?
Tag your favourite photo of you wearing your baby with #myloveofbabywearing for your chance to be featured on Joimove’s Instagram account!
Where to find Joimove on Social Media
Looking to contact Joimove or learn about our programmes? You can send as an email at email@example.com, but to find out more about us online, come check out what we’re sharing on social media today!
Here’s a list of places you can find us online. Follow us to keep up to date and be sure to say hi!
Our main Joimove Facebook page has all the latest info, photos, and videos from our trainings, programmes, and events from around the world, but you can also find country/region-specific and instructor-run Facebook pages, too, so don’t miss out!
Our Instagram is buzzing with behind-the-scenes shots of the work that goes into spreading our love of babywearing dance and health and fitness at every age, plus a glimpse at our energetic instructor trainings, new works in development, and life around the Head Office in Glasgow.
Our Pinterest boards are fantastic! We’re continually gathering resources from all over the web on the topics that mean the most to us: babywearing, child safety, attachment parenting, family fitness, and dancing for everyone. Plus we’ve included a dose of inspirational quotes to keep us all feeling joyful and ready to face the day!
Check here for the latest news from the babywearing universe, advice from Joimove’s international community of babywearing instructors and professionals, and our top tips and tricks for babywearing, dancing, and simply sharing joy with our children and our communities.
Find out what we’ve been up to on any of these channels, then contact us in the comments below, on any of these platforms, or email us today and start your journey with Joimove!
Joimove Babywearing Dance Training Testimonial
Ruta is one of our Joimove babywearing dance instructors! She’s a professional dancer and dance therapist from Lithuania and now teaches Joimove Babies classes. She’s getting ready to set up the first babywearing community and sling library in her country. Here Ruta shares some of her Joimove journey with us and her experience at the recent Joimove European Summit training weekend in Istanbul.
Babywearing Dance Training for Joimove Babies Instructors
On June 3 and 4, 2017, Joimove held its first multilingual European summit in Istanbul. Joimove Babies Trainees and Instructors gathered together from all over the world to meet for two days of intensive babywearing dance training, learning, sharing together, and of course, dancing!
Bringing People Together
Joimove loves bringing people together to share their passion, knowledge, experience, and joy, and this training was no exception! This year Ruta, our representative from Lithuania, Ally, from Scotland, Basak from Izmir, Cigdem from Germany and Nazli from Antalya flew with their babies in slings to Istanbul, Turkey to join in the training at 37 Arts, Acarkent.
Our Training Programme
The highlight of the Joimove training summit was when Joimove’s Founder, Selen Yilmaz and Joimove’s health and babywearing consultants, spoke about health and safety when babywearing, post-natal health and wellness, infant anatomy, and creating powerful, joyful communication in Joimove Babies classes and in the wider community.
Dance and Joimove Babies
Joimove Babies is also about dance! As a dance professional and former ballerina, Selen explained about the importance of choosing the right music and safe movements for Joimove Babies babywearing dance classes.
Over the course of their training, Joimove Babies Instructors learn why certain dance moves are safe and what to consider when creating routines rather than set routines, so that our Instructors have the freedom to design routines that suit their own style and the individual needs of their students. In Istanbul, Joimove Babies trainees and Instructors worked through specially prepared case studies on babywearing dance and practised routines in many different styles, from belly to salsa to ballet!
Babywearing Dance Safety
Babywearing dancing is a special field within dance that requires careful work with young babies, new moms, and loving parents. As a world leader in the field, Joimove is proud to have babywearing and health professionals in our team and explore every aspect of babywearing dance safety in detail with our trainees and Instructors during our Joimove Babies training sessions.
Joimove Babies Instructors: Experts in The Field
Our Instructors are the heart of Joimove and are making an impact in each and every one of their communities! Our international team of Instructors are proud to be some the first ones in their countries to set up sling libraries, sling meets, and bring wonderful babywearers in their regions together for the first time. We encourage our Joimove Babies Instructors to upgrade their Babywearing Peer Supporter knowledge to the Babywearing Consultant level where available and to study first aid so that they are prepared and ready to help.
Upcoming Joimove Live Trainings
Today, Joimove International operates in England, Germany, India, Ireland, Lithuania, Scotland, Spain, Taiwan, Turkey and USA. At Joimove, we hold refreshment training for our Joimove Babies Instructors several times each year to keep our Instructors motivated, safe, and connected to one another. Upcoming trainings include Istanbul, Turkey in September and Taipei, Taiwan in November, and we will be holding live training in Lithuania in April 2018.
We are always looking to bring the joy and knowledge of the Joimove Babies Instructor training programme to new regions and communities. If you would like us to come to your region, or you would like to find out about our ground-breaking online training programme that brings our experience and knowledge to you wherever you are and fits around your schedule, email our Education and E-Learning Consultant, Dr Paula Dumas, today at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
“Keyifli Ebeveynlik Mümkün Mü? Bebeklerle Dans ile Bağlı ve Keyifli Aileler”
Dr. Aslıhan Onaran / JOIMOVE Doğal Ebeveynlik Danışmanı & Eğitim Uzmanı
Kurucu-Lider, Attachment Parenting API Turkiye
Keyifli bir ebeveynlik mümkün mü? Diyelim ki gerçekten farkında olarak bebeğimizle bir andan keyif aldık, işte “o” duygu sürdürülebilir mi? Özellikle uykusuzluk, yapılması gereken işler, anne baba olmanın getirdiği kaygılar, ve belki de yaşamımızdaki rol değişimleri gözönüne alındığında, keyifli ebeveynlik ütopik bir tezat gibi geliyor kulağa, öyle değil mi?
Ebeveynliği daimi bir sınama veya iş gibi değil, keyif de alabildiğimiz, farkında anlar ile güçlenen bir yolculuk olarak tecrübe etmek ve dengede bir yaşam aslında mümkün. Hem de ilk aylardan itibaren… Bu dengede hali destekleyen temel bir uygulama ise bebekgiyme. Öyle ki, hem bebekler, hem ebeveynleri bu uygulamadan bedensel ve ruhsal olarak beslenebiliyorlar. Bağlandıkça özgürleşiyorlar, özgürleştikçe “keyif” faktoru hayalden gerçeğe dönüşüyor. Bebeklerini giyerek dans etmeyi denediklerinde ise bildiğimiz anlamıyla tüm ebeveynlik algısı tekdüze bir sorumluluktan çok, anda olduğumuz, yorgunken dahi gülümseyebildiğimiz ve keyif alabildiğimiz varoluşsal bir hale dönüşebiliyor. Nasıl mı?
Posted by Attachment Parenting International, Turkey/TÜRKİYE DOĞAL Ebeveynlik Destek on Tuesday, 25 October 2016
Dünyada tek Bebeklerle Dans Güvenlik ve Sertifika Programının yaratıcısı olan Joimove’u 2012’den bu yana Türkiye’deki ailelere ulaştırmaktan gurur duyuyoruz. Uzman kadroumuz ve sertifikalı eğitmenlerimize Joimove üzerinden ulaşabilirsiniz.
Ruhu ve bedeni besleyen dokunuş, her bireyin temel ihtiyaclarındandır… Bu dünyaya henüz katılmış minik bir insan ve ailesi için ise, dokunuş, en elzem iletişim ve bağlanma yollarından biridir. Daha fazla dokunuş ile beslenen bebeklerin (premature ve özel ihtiyacı olan bebekler dahil olmak üzere) bağışıklık sistemleri ve gelişimlerinin olumlu etkilendiği artık bilimsel bir gerçektir. Literature bu konuda ilk geçen örneklerden biri ise 1938 yılında New York’taki Belleuve Hastanesi Çocuk Kliniği’nde görülmüştür. Klinikte ağlayan her hasta bebeğin personel tarafından kucağa alınmasını şart koyan hastane kayıtlarına gore sadece bir yıl içinde klinikteki bebek ölüm oranı %35’ten %10’un altına düşmüştü. Bu ilk verilerin ardından, özellikle ABD’deki bebek yoğun bakım ünitelerinde “Kanguru Bakım” denilen ebeveynin veya sağlık personelinin bebek ile ten tene temas sağlaması ve annenin bebeği emzirebilmesi/ya da göğsünde iken emzirmeyi simule ederek ten teması ile biberonun sunulması yaygınlaşmıştı.
Güvenli bağlılık ve aileiçi şefkatli iletişim ile toplumsal şiddetsizliği hedefleyen Attachment Parenting /Doğal Ebeveynlik uygulamalarında da dokunuş ve temas çok büyük önem taşır. Öyle ki, bebekgiyme/babywearing ile faydaları bilimsel olarak kanıtlanmış bu besleyici dokunuşu sağlamak, bebeklerimizi taşırken dans ile iletişim kurmamız ve ebeveyn olarak da “keyif alabilmemiz”, şablondışı bir sezgisel ebeveynlik modeli olan Attachment Parenting’in sekiz yol gösterici prensibinden en az üçünü aynı anda karşılamaktadır. Bu prensipler, bebekgiyme, şefkatli dokunuş ve dengede yaşam prensipleridir. Bu yazıda attachment parenting’de anahtar rolü olan ebeveyn-bebek arasındaki güvenli bağlılığı ve dolayısıyla aileiçi farkındalığımızı artıran bebekgiyme prensibi ekseninde örneklere kısaca değindik.
Bebeğimizi kucakta veya Joimove uluslararası akımındaki gibi güvenli bir taşıyıcıda taşırken yani bebeğimizi “giyerken” ve dans ederken, ebeveyn-bebek arasındaki güvenli bağlılığı bebeğimizle bedensel ve göz temasımız ile , ve dengede hisseden, yorgun olsa dahi yüzünde doğal bir gülümseme olan, bebeğiyle bağını desteklerken bir topluluğun parçası olduğunu da tecrübe eden bir ebeveyn olarak sayısız şekilde destekliyor oluruz.
Kısacası, sevgili anneler ve babalar, bebeginizi bol bol giyin ve yaşama beraber dahil olun. Bebeğinizi giyin ve bir öpücük kondurun. Bebeginizi giyin ve emzirin. Bebeginizi giyerken dans edin! Bebeginizi giyin, “güvenle” bağlanın ve nihayetinde hem siz özgur ve anda olun, hem de bebeğiniz…
Dr. Aslıhan Onaran (Ph.D.)
JOIMOVE Doğal Ebeveynlik Danışmanı / Kurucu-Lider, Attachment Parenting API Turkiye
Dr. Aslıhan Onaran KİMDİR?
İki çocuk annesi Dr. Aslıhan Onaran, Amerikan “Uluslararası Doğal Ebeveynlik Kurumu”nun Türkiye Platformu Kurucu-Lideridir. 15 yıl boyunca Amerika’da önde gelen (ivy league) üniversitelerde öğretim üyesi ve Türk Amerikan toplumunda sivil toplum lideri olarak görev almış ve bu sürede, pozitif ebeveynlik, çift dilli eğitim, şiddetsiz iletişim becerileri, farkındalık ve bebek işaret dili konularına yönelmiş, Amerika’da alanında pekçok ilke liderlik etmiştir.
ABD’de ve Türkiye’de onde gelen universitelerden toplam 4 diploma sahibi olan Dr. Onaran’ın, ABD’deki Brown Üniversitesi’ndeki burslu doktora derecesine ek olarak Harvard Üniversitesi ve UC Berkeley’den pozitif psikoloji alanında sertifikaları, ABD’den yoga-meditasyon eğitmenliği sertifikası ile pekçok uluslararası yayını bulunmaktadır.
Doğal ve Pozitif Ebeveynlik/Pozitif Disiplin, İletişim, Çift Dilli Eğitim, Farkındalık ve Ülke Değişimi adaptasyonu konularında kurumlara, ailelere ve çocuklara özel eğitimler ve danışmanlık sunmaktadır.
Online veya şahsi danışmanlık talep etmek için iletişim: DrOnaran@gmail.com
i Ashley Montagu. Touching. New York: Harper and Row, 1986: 97-99.
ii 60 yıllık bilimsel araştırma tarihçesi olan bağlılık kuramı/attachment theory konusunda detaylı bilgi için bu kaynakları inceleyebilirsiniz: Ainsworth, M., & Bell, S. M. (1970). “Attachment, exploration, and separation.” Child Development, 49-67. Bowlby, J. (1958). The nature of the child’s ties to his mother. International Journal of Psychoanalysis, 350-371. Cassidy, J. Jones, Shaver. “Contributions of Attachment Theory and Research: A Framework for Future Research, Translation and Policy.” Development and Psychopathology 402 (2013): 1415-1434. Perry, B., & Dobson, C. (2010). The role of healthy relational interactions in buffering the impact of childhood trauma. E. Gil,Working with Children to Heal Interpersonal Trauma: The Power of Play. New York: Guilford Press. Siegel, D. (2012). The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are. New York: The Guilford Press.
“Is Joyful Parenting Possible?” Babywearing Dance and Joyful Mindfulness
Dr. Aslıhan Onaran (Ph.D.)
JOIMOVE Parenting Consultant & Founder, Attachment Parenting International, Turkey
Is Joyful Parenting ever possible? Say, you did have a mindful moment with your baby, how is `that` feeling sustainable? With day-to-day challenges such as extended sleep deprivation, errands to run, anxieties that come with being new or even seasoned parents and very likely the stress due to the changing roles in our family, joyful parenting does sound more like an oxymoron or a utopia at best, doesn’t it?
Joy, mindfulness and parenting may, indeed, coexist and even support each other for the long term…this is a presence of balance, not one that approaches parenting as a project with the unreachable goal of spotless perfection or an ongoing challenge but one that views parenting as a human way of mutual bonding through our day-to-day experiences, through connecting with our baby and with ourselves. Such joyful mindfulness is possible from the moment of birth. One daily practice that does enhance this mutual bond is babywearing. In fact, babywearing nurtures not just the baby but also the wearing parent/caretaker. The more attached the parent-baby duo feels, the more independent each will feel down the road. The more the perceived independence, the more real joy becomes. When a parent tries babywearing and dance, what we often see is joyful parenting with no room for parental anxieties as the parent is immersed in the moment. This is an existential getaway, one that puts a smile on your face (and your baby’s) even on your most sleep-deprived day. Let us briefly explore how.
Touch is a basic human need, one that feeds both the body and the soul. It is, in fact, often viewed as the mother of all senses. For a newborn and her family, touch offers a fundamental means to communicate, to enhance attachment and thus security. It is now a scientific fact that babies of all ages (including premature babies and those with special needs) benefit from touch with recorded outcomes such as enhanced immunity, better health and faster recovery. One of the earliest scientific proofs of this correlation comes from a 1938 case of skin-to-skin contact and ‘mothering’at the Paediatric Ward of Belleuve Hospital in New York. Records indicate that after the medical staff had been instructed to pick up crying babies and carry them around, the death rate fell from 35 percent to less than ten percent. This then became widespread practice, especially in NICU units in the United States where mothers were also allowed to nurse the preemies or simulate nursing behaviour with skin-to-skin contact with their newborn in the NICUS to enhance parent-baby attachment.
Attachment Parenting, a non-generic intuitive style of parenting drawing on the key role of attachment and compassionate communication for a nonviolent society, also highlights the fundamental role of touch and babywearing. In fact, the practice of babywearing dance with the added benefit of bringing in joyful mindfulness, meets at least three of the eight guiding principles of Attachment Parenting, namely babywearing, offering nurturing touch and striving for balance in our personal and family roles. In this piece, we have focused on babywearing dance as a practice in line with attachment parenting, enhancing and maintaining our joyful coexistence with our baby.
When we carry our baby in our arms or in a safe, approved baby carrier, or, even better, when we wear our baby and dance with other parents and babies as in the global JOIMOVE movement, we not only support our attachment and our baby’s overall well-being, with physical touch and eye contact, music and joy, but we also begin to feel balance, with a smile on our face, despite sleep deprivation, because we are now part of a nonjudgmental community and have done something great both for the baby and for ourselves.
Dear amazing parents out there, all I allude to in a nutshell is: Wear your baby and get outside to share life together. Wear her and put a kiss on her face. Wear her and nurse her. Wear her and dance! Wear her, get attached and mindfully free…
Dr. Aslıhan Onaran (Ph.D.)
JOIMOVE Parenting Consultant &Founder, Attachment Parenting API Turkey
For worldwide online coaching, please contact: DrOnaran@gmail.com
We take safety seriously and share our knowledge with you through our Joimove International School’s consultants team and programs on how to make dancing with your baby a beautiful and wonderful experience. We are proud to creating a positive impact on the world through dance and safe babywearing.
Ashley Montagu. Touching. New York: Harper and Row, 1986: 97-99. For more on attachment theory research covering more than sixty years of scientific findings, you may see: Ainsworth, M., & Bell, S. M. (1970). “Attachment, exploration, and separation.” Child Development, 49-67. Bowlby, J. (1958). The nature of the child’s ties to his mother. International Journal of Psychoanalysis, 350-371. Cassidy, J. Jones, Shaver. “Contributions of Attachment Theory and Research: A Framework for Future Research, Translation and Policy.” Development and Psychopathology 402 (2013): 1415-1434. Perry, B., & Dobson, C. (2010). The role of healthy relational interactions in buffering the impact of childhood trauma. E. Gil,Working with Children to Heal Interpersonal Trauma: The Power of Play. New York: Guilford Press. Siegel, D. (2012). The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are. New York: The Guilford Press.
After introductory emails and a few chats, it became apparent to Selen that Meeshi Ravi Anjali, co-founder of GroovaRoo Dance in San Diego California, and Intan Armelia, our recent JISBD student and founder of Cool Mumz Dancin in Singapore, had very similar ideologies and thoughts about babywearing dance.
So, in just three weeks, after online meetings and discussions (which is no easy feat between three countries and countless time zones), the three founders decided to hold the first ever global babywearing dance event.
More than just independent events in three locations, their vision was to hold flashmobs worldwide during the weekend of 21st and 22nd May. And that’s exactly what happened.
“Love is This”, a collaboratively created routine, brought together over 1000 families in the USA, Singapore, Turkey, Lithuania and Scotland to dance and share their love of babywearing dance.
Selen Yilmaz said of the event that “It was wonderful to see and hear of the excellent turn out for our inspirational event. All of us who collaborated believe that dancing with children is a fundamental way to grow happiness within the family unit. We feel that dance not only helps to build happier, more confident and caring children, but is a building block to help families create lasting relationships and esteem, through being active. That’s why we wanted to inspire our communities to take part and get to know the beauty that is babywearing dance.”
She continued by saying “More than just a dance routine, we also wanted to showcase the power of collaboration in creating community cohesion. Working together, we were able to show how babywearing dance transcends the boundaries of geography, it’s universal.”
Although used for the initial global flashmob event, “Love is This” was conceived as an introduction to the First International Babywearing Dance Day (IBDD), scheduled for Wednesday 21 September 2016.
Selen said she believes that they’ve only scratched the surface of the number of people who could benefit from and enjoy babywearing dance, and she hopes to find more people taking part in September for IBDD.
So, here’s to bringing increased happiness and joy across cultural and generational divides.
Will we see you in September for IBDD? We’ll be looking out for you!
Going to a #babywearing dance, exercise class with your baby or leading your own active session? Here’s some things to keep in mind to be safe and have fun! Find more about babywearing dance health and safety via Joimove International School!
Active Lifestyle Babywearing Guidelines by Joimove International.
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